Recently I visited a Nursery school and was much happy to see most of the toddlers smiling and moving around at leisure enjoying the freedom of their early childhood years. Soon, a child was spotted crying and throwing tantrums wanting to go home because fear gripped him when the teacher closed the door of the room as the kids were freaking out. He thought he was locked up in the room!

Children are innocent with their smiling faces but it’s a major concern when a fear complexes child cries and shuns away throwing tantrums which makes it tough for the teachers or parents to handle the situation. Every child has the kind of inner drive that makes them easily frustrated and influence his behavior. They violently react when they lose their temper and throw tantrums.

Tantrums are in fact a very common problem faced by parents of children between two to five years. One may call him a ‘Spoilt brat’ but if one dives deep into the child psychology, it is observed that some kids are prone to pampering and more protective and as a result these children are on extremes. He wants total freedom and on the other end, he wants to depend absolutely on the parent. In any case, if a child feels bullied, pressurized or too much pampered, he will resist.

Tantrums are triggered by helplessness, defeat and feelings of being overpowered by emotions and circumstances. Developing awareness of self is exciting as well as frightening for the child. The child demands attention and becomes too rigid, refusing to obey and only desiring to make his wish fulfilled. In such cases of problem behavior, directing his attention away from the cause is the remedy. Encouraging him to be active by providing him with something to do while you are busy to let him experience the natural, negative results of his own misbehavior. Such children crave for simple attention, are awakened with curiosity and filled with lots of hopes that what they wish turns true.

Ultimately, tackling such kids needs a lot of patience and using influenced intelligent tactics to handle the situation. Instead of labeling such children as stubborn, its wise to check your behavior and modify his needs with kind attention. It is the role of the parent to make the child realize the small simple manners and making him accept the environment in a pleasing lively way. Praise the child and reward him when he is good instead of shouting for his rude behavior.

Expression of love is the most recognized feeling by the child, which makes him confident and relaxed anywhere, any time. It is more important to make a child listen to you and learn to say ‘No’ to the child. Kids respond to a parent’s fear and this too, creates anxiety in kids but let them flourish in natural atmosphere and they are at ease. Creativity influences the mind of the child and all a parent or a teacher could adopt is a simple diversified activity to keep the child busy and interested.

However, the process of bringing up a child may not be smooth but very challenging and the chief joys of parenthood is witnessing the gradual transformation of the infants into happy teen year with his own thoughts, emotions and unique personality built as an individual.

Ilaxi Sudhir Patel is a Journalist Writer for Freesouls (Print media) for Sambhaav Newspapers in Gujarat, India. Also Editor Online & CEO for www.sambhaav.com